Transactional Relationship vs Ascended Connections!
Why do we want a relationship?
Companionship, sex, money, social status, security, means to end depression, loneliness & addictions, recover from previous break up :- in short it’s all NEED BASED
Relationships:- My Master Teachers! It has moulded me & led to my “REBIRTH”Interestingly thanks to social media, movies & novels, I grew up with a “skewed perspective around Relationship
Old paradigm:– Relationships fills us & fullfilled our basic needs & desires- It provides us with safety, security, love & belongingness- It bridges our inner voids & acts as a fill in the blanks- It is the center of our world & it SUPERCEDES in every aspect. I recall how I used to place my significant other always ABOVE me & my needs & treat them as “demi gods” I did this in my friendships too & was living in an illusion for the longest time
Looking back I feel relationship was like a fixed deposit/mutual fund coz I wanted “SECURITY”. I bartered my power away in order to KEEP the person in my life even if I felt subservient.
I always seeked, hoped, looked forward to WHAT COULD I GET OUT OF IT? And never focused on WHAT AM I CONTRIBUTING IN IT?
What am I doing to nurture it?What could I do in order to stop “over giving” & instead heal my own insecurity & fear of loss?
To me I was TRADING in the name of Love! I was BUYING SECURITY by OVER GIVING
It was more of a banking transactions than love! I was morguaging my self esteem & identify in order to jump out of my “single” status
Looking back makes me laugh at how I thought these transactions would even survive. I have been a banker for 7yrs so I was “banking” & “trading”
Fast forward to meeting my Counterpart where I was forced to WAKE UP!
Initially my default setting was so chronic that I was looping back to my old ways but little did I know that the rules of ASCENDED CONNECTIONS are way different to Transcational Relationships
An Ascended connection:– leads you to your Life purpose- It questions every equation of your reality until one RECALIBRATES- It brings a deeper understanding & meaning of Life- It helps one to EMBODY LOVE first before the two get closer- It facilitates a complete Metamorphosis, Re-evaluation & REVIEW – Life comes to a full circle- Both parties contribute EQUALLY in it without TRADING- Both parties THRIVE, EVOLVE & expand TOGETHER in directions that they feel gravitated towards- There is freedom, unity, alignment, oneness & inner knowing that they are MEANT TO BE!- They have a joint soul mission that unfolds when both are ready in divine timing & they wholeheartedly contribute to humanity at large. – They both FUEL each other’s desires & yet ALLOW the other to achieve it themselves & just hold space for the other
ASCENDED CONNECTIONS Is a BLESSING bestowed upon by Existence! It’s an opportunity for GROWTH & EXPANSION!
It needs NOTHING from each other in order to sustainYet both GIVE INTO IT effortlessly!
It’s SYMBIOTIC EXISTENCE of two individual pillars that come together for a greater cause!
To get to this side of the spectrum I had to first visit the other end & today I feel utterly grateful coz it was all WORTHWHILE!!
What is a relationship for you?What are you INVESTING in it? Is it FEEDING you or depleting you?
Food for thought!
SheetalRaj
