Performance issues in WOMEN!
Most women enter the bedroom as if its an exam hall or an appraisal interview.
Thoughts lingering in her mind :-
– Will he find me fat?
– Are my breast in perfect size?
– Will he accept my body if I am not fully waxed?
– If I behave “dirty” will he think I am a slut?
– If I touch his sexual organ, will he assume I’m desperate?
– Can I lead or should I wait for him?
– Do I kiss well?
– Does he find my vagina too tight or too loose?
– Can I express my sexual fantasy?
– Can I indicate my preference? Will he get offended?
– If I don’t orgasm will he feel let down?
– Do I moan correctly?
– Does he like my body scent?
And then we women expect an Orgasm of a Lifetime!!
Will we succeed???
Big NOOOOOOOO!
As much as performance pressure is men’s domain, women go through their levels of ANXIETY too!
When love making is “objective based” or driven by perfection or where the final destination is an “orgasm” —–
The purpose of the divine union gets several defeated!
Lovemaking is an oppurtunity to
– express your love & warmth for your beloved
– a sacred space where your vulnerabilities are celebrated.
– a safe zone where you are always HELD by your partner & not expected to be “perfect” and have an hour glass figure
– MEET yourself in spaces you havent accessed before
– Touch your partner in devotion that reaches his soul
– Allow him to drop in his heart space without any resistance
– Timelessness, Vast vaccuum beyond time, space, continuum
Most of all, Lovemaking is an endeavor to meet DIVINE in blood & flesh through your beloved!
Its merging with the Divinity that you are made up of!
You don’t have to be impeccable in bed
But
You have to SURRENDER IMPECCABLY to the waves of pleasure, passion & prayer that arises in you!
Sheetal R Ahuja