Imagine what you could do with all the energy you give away to people who can’t show up for you in the way you deserve.If we’re going after unavailable people or ignoring red flags, we’re likely chasing a ‘Ghost Figure’……a person, who embodies or represents some type of energy or a person that we’re incomplete with from our past.The good news is, you don’t need anybody but you to close that loop…that is where your healing starts.If we find ourselves endlessly giving away our energy and feeling unappreciated, ignored, or abandoned, this is simply a sign that we’re not operating in flow with life.We’re working against it, going after things to try and fill some invisible void.Our relationship patterns can offer us a lot of insight into the areas we need to be putting our energy.We just have to choose to open the door and be willing to walk through it.Saying goodbye to old patterns, no matter how painful can be scary because we’re walking into the unknown and confronted with limiting beliefs we might not even know we’re holding.These are the beliefs that linger in our subconscious and take the wheel in our relationships until we do our Inner-Work.Our desire for a healthy relationship needs to be as strong as our willingness to dive deep.A practice for anyone who sees themselves in this pattern is to “bring it home”.This means taking all of the energy you would normally spend on trying to gain love, affection, approval or validation from others, and pour it into yourself.Practice self-care, nourish yourself with healthy foods, create a self-care ritual and routine, consider taking a break from alcohol for a few weeks and find a space to begin your healing work.Reclaim your power and pour all of that loving energy back into yourself
