Excerpts from the Tantra teachings on Inner Union towards enlightenment.
For all those who perceive Tantra teachings to be all about sex positions & nudity, this will be a paradigm shift in your perspective!
Are you :-
– Needy & obsessive
– Constantly into future fantasies,
– Feel unworthy,
– Checking phone every 5 seconds for a reply/text,
– People-pleasing,
– Mould yourself to fit your partner,
– Want a partner to rescue & fulfill you,
– Struggling to be on your own,
– Feeling rejected easily.
These are all signs of Love Addiction (anxious attachment), which stems from childhood due to abuse or emotional/physical neglect.
The child (or adult) then needs to grasp onto love to fill the paces that feel unloved or unsafe; and hold onto love to avoid the pain of rejection.
The IRONY is, a Love Addict will usually attract a Love Avoider – the perfect coupling, attracted through unconscious wounding.
Clinginess pushes the partner away, re-creating what the Love Addict’s nervous system is used to; *“forcing them to turn within and heal their fear of abandonment & rejection”*
The first step in healing Love Addiction is *awareness* of the pattern.
Tomorrow I’ll post some steps on how you can begin to heal this unhealthy attachment style, create more confidence within and step towards secure attachment in relationship.
Till then,
Happy Reflection!
Sheetal R Ahuja